As I mentioned in my first post on putting together your “tool kit”, smart business owners are always looking for new ways to coddle customers and expand their business growth.
As a caregiver working for a company, privately working with a family, or as the adult child caregiver for a family member, my suggestion is repack your “tool kit”, and plan to do exactly the same thing businesses do.
Acquiring these new tools will help you more effectively connect or coddle the person for whom you provide care. Equally as important, they can help you grow as a person and expand your opportunities to value your work and yourself.
What an extraordinary time in your life and the life of your loved one. Aging is not a punishment for living. You can be a partner in a process that was ordained by our Maker, the designer of the universe, as you by default or by your own choice, provide personal care assistance to someone in these most fragile and sometimes compromised years of life. It is reason to celebrate yourself.
Often the story goes like this: I have brothers and sisters and they don’t help at all! Why do I have to take care of our parents by myself? Chances are you have heard that same expression of stress and angst within a family unit. It may be the situation in your family.
The first tool you want to put in your new “Tool Kit” is an “Attitude of Gratitude“. I am serious. The things you can learn, the values you can see demonstrated, the extraordinary sense of love and respect you can internalize for some one who may be close to “going home” in a real sense is one of those moments described in the line, “Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by those moments that take our breath away”.
A minister friend of mine wrote these words this week describing the birth of his first child. “The gift of new life is an amazing thing! For years, I have told people that the miracle of birth is one of the strongest arguments for the existence of God. I feel that way now more than ever. It is simply amazing how much you can love a child, so much the moment she is born. There are many things in life that will change the way we see the world, but nothing like the birth of a child. The love, the pride, the joy and the sense of responsibility is overwhelming.”
And so it is with a person on the other end of this divinely created cycle of life .
Your new “Tool Kit” now has the first tool you need: “An attitude of gratitude”. It is the joy and wonder of birth translated and redefined to describe the joy and wonder of life for one who has aged. You can be there when they need your hand to comfort theirs. You can be there to comfort and hold them when they feel so bad. You can give them a reassuring hug to be treasured, just as they did with you (or their child) as a newborn. It is a gift waiting for you to open and celebrate.Enjoy your place in life today. It matters! Becci